Valentines Day is tomorrow! What a great excuse to talk about Wonderful Husband.
Social media forums are filled with posts about vegans unable to sustain healthy relationships with non-vegans. However, I have had a very different experience because without the support of Wonderful Husband, I would never have been able to make the transition.
To give you a bit of background on Wonderful Husband’s diet: Wonderful Husband was born in India but at a young age moved to New Zealand and grew up there. His diet consisted of yummy home-made curries and a frequent dose of KFC (a ritual after any sort of sporting activity). In his mid-twenties he moved to San Francisco. There his daily routine consisted of roasted chicken alongside a Wholefoods salad with a glass of almond milk (much healthier than KFC!). After we met and fell in love (Valentine’s Day post so love has to be featured somewhere) Wonderful Husband proposed. When he did this, I was a vegetarian and there was no talk of veganism so I don’t know if he (or I) realised what was to come…
During my transition to veganism, I would watch lots of videos and read lots of books. One of the first books I bought was Why We Love Dogs, Eat Pigs, and Wear Cows: An Introduction to Carnism by Melanie Joy but before I could get round to reading it, Wonderful Husband had finished it. He wasn’t incredibly fulfilled by the book and so he bought another, more extensive, book which would give him more information: Eating Animals by Jonathan Safran Foer. Every night, Wonderful Husband would tell me a bit more about what happens to the animals in factory farms. At this point in time, he knew more than me.
It wasn’t long after reading Eating Animals that I made a full transition to veganism, which leads me to the question: Why isn’t Wonderful Husband vegan yet? I assumed that the books/videos etc. that helped me become vegan would help everyone else become vegan. However, that’s not how it works.
Wonderful Husband isn’t vegan because he likes the taste of meat… That reason is good enough for me. He’ll transition in his own time, if ever. Until then he has been the biggest supporter of my lifestyle to date. He will regularly find new vegan recipes for us to try, he’ll hold my hand and comfort me when I insist on watching a new animal-cruelty video, he will come to protests with me and sit out of sight to make sure I’m ok and aside from the odd can of tuna we have a 100% vegan household.
So in response to the keyboard warriors who claim that a vegan and a non-vegan cannot be happy together, you clearly haven’t found the right non-vegan. If someone isn’t supportive of your lifestyle choices, that isn’t anything to do with whether they eat meat or not. So I look forward to spending tomorrow with my Wonderful, non-vegan, Husband.
Happy Valentines Day everyone and thanks for reading 💛
Bless, love is all that is important at the end of the day, Love for each other and ALL our beautiful animals..❤️
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What a beautiful comment and something that I absolutely neglected to mention… Love for the animals is so important.
Thank you for your comment 💛💛💛
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This is actually so lovely, I loved hearing your point of view and I completely agree with you 🙂 Your relationship is such a lovely example of unconditional support 🙂 xx
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Kayla your comment is very sweet. I am so grateful xx
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My husband had watch me transition to vegetarian and then vegan but during that time he started to see the light and now as of January is vegan as well. Eventually you husband will have an AHA moment. It actually happen with my sister in law I posted a video on facebook a few months back and she messaged me saying how that one video was the tipping point and she could never eat meat again!
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That’s lovely that you’ve helped both transition 💛
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Awwwww that’s a really sweet post Zoe. What a wonderful husband and a wonderful wife. Hehe
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Haha thank you Samanthi 💛
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Great post, it’s great that you support each other
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Ah thank you Michelle. That’s very sweet of you to say 😀
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I have a similar experience. My boyfriend is not vegan.
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It’s so nice to hear that people are in the same boat 💛
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This is great. As a newly-converted vegan, living with a (very supportive) omni partner of 8+ years, it’s refreshing to hear about how a vegan/non-vegan relationship can work rather than the usual cries of “it won’t work, either convert him or dump him”. Whilst I obviously would love it if he converted, I fully understand that he has to come to that decision on his own, and no amount of my pestering will help with that. All I can do is be a good example of veganism, show him it’s not difficult and in fact is pretty tasty and remove as many barriers for him as I can.
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Sam this is such a wonderful comment. We should all speak up a bit more for the wonderful omni’s in our life. It’s lovely to hear about the approach you take. I think that’s the only way that we are going to save animals, through kindness, love and open-mindedness. An open-minded vegan is becoming a rare thing (or at least very quiet) these days. Thank you again for your comment 💛
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I hope you 2 had a great Valentine’s day together! Dating someone that eats meat can be a challenge, but love between 2 people is not determined by what you eat, but by the respect you have for eachothers lifestyle. He sounds great, it’s a keeper ;D
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Gosh thank you so much. You’re right, it an be tough to be with a meat-eater if they don’t respect your lifestyle… However who wants to be with a person like that, vegan or not haha!? Thank you for your comment 💛
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If they don’t respect it, they’re not worth your time anyway 😀
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